There are no easy ways to heal a broken heart
but there are steps we all have to go through to heal. When we experience loss,
whether it the loss of a loved one, a job, our health, a friendship or a
relationship the feelings we have are so overwhelming to us that we feel we
will never heal again. We have to keep in mind that this feeling of pain is not
going to last forever.
There is a myriad
of emotions we experience after a loss. We may feel shock and disbelief and
after that anger at the person who left you or the boss who fired you from your
job or at God for the illness you have or the death of a loved one. We go
though things like bargaining with God or the person you lost, to intense
anger, helplessness and hopelessness, depression and finally acceptance.
The road to
healing is a long one and it is an emotional roller coaster ride. We can waver
between bouts of weeping, laughter and faith. These feelings come and go and
have no order to it. We must let ourselves go though this and accept the
emotions, it is part of the healing process. We should give ourselves time and
take care of ourselves like you would a friend going through something like
this. There is no timeline to grief of any form. It all depends on the kind of
relationship you had with the person you lost, if you will find a job again or
if you will be healed from your illness. We all experience emotions in a
different way. Where someone might be very emotional and open about it, some
will act strong and hide their pain away. One of the best medicines for a
broken heart is crying. Tears cleanse the soul.
When a loved one
dies there is this huge void left by their parting. We grieve not only for them
but the future we had with them. The loss of a parent is the love and safety
that is lost. The death of a child is part of your life gone. The death of a
spouse is the other half that is lost. Every loss through death has its own
different compartments you mourn. Death is one of the deepest and most final
losses we can experience and it takes longer to heal.
A divorce is one
of the most upsetting and painful transitions we can go through. The dream for
the future you had, the person you confided in and with whom you shared your
life is now all broken dreams. People who go through a divorce feel intense
loneliness and depression. You can feel like a failure and that you don’t fit
in anywhere any more.
When you lose a
job it creates financial insecurity and worries about how you are going to
manage to survive. You may also experience feelings of failure and
hopelessness. Fear of the future is also a great factor in this situation.
Sudden illness can
rob you of your normal life and life expectancy. It is very upsetting and
painful not to be able to live like you used to. Many kinds of illnesses alter
your life so much that you are incapacitated. Sometimes you need a complete
adjustment to life in general and it creates a loss of self.
All these losses
contribute to a broken heart and we need time and patience to work through the
different emotions we experience. When you feel yourself going into deep
depression you must seek professional help. Medication or therapy can help you
come to terms with your situation. We have to take care of ourselves and not
give up when our hearts are broken. Talk to a friend or someone you can trust
about your pain and suffering. Not one of us is an island and we must try to
reach out and ask for help. Many people feel too proud to admit to weakness but
it is futile to think that way. We can’t overcome heartbreak alone.
I hope after
reading this you can feel comfortable to reach out to others. If you need love
and understanding and comfort we are here for you. Don’t feel alone and
isolated, it is not true.
If anyone ever
needs to talk please feel free to contact me.
Blessed Be and
Namaste!
